Marriage beckons
Mimi Martínez and Judo Zamora, both from Ajijic, have been in a relationship for just over four years.
Sofía Medeles (Ajijic).- This is the story of Noemi Milagros Martinez Romero – «Mimi» and Judith Reyes Zamora – «Judo,» two women who, despite the ups and downs of their relationship, have fought against rejection, discrimination and criticism to move forward together.
Although they were neighbors in their youth, they actually met just under five years ago when Judo moved into an apartment near Mimi’s current residence. In a short time, they went from sharing greetings to having coffee; after four months of living together, their friendship turned into love.
«I liked Judo and flirted with her, but since I have my family, she didn’t think I liked her. Love stirred during those four months of living together, visits and so on,» said Mimi.
The beginning of their romance was difficult mainly because of their families, but also due to the discriminatory comments of the people around them. «Family opinions played an important role. When my family found out, many turned away and didn’t accept it. It took time for them to agree with what I wanted,» Mimi said.
Judo added that her close ones also put a «but» in front of the relationship due to the fact that Mimi already had children, but the couple overcame the criticism. «Eventually, we decided that other people were not going to make us happy. The relationship is about us, no matter what other people think.»
Mimi stated that her priority was her children, who accepted their relationship in the best way, showing that the only thing that mattered to them was their mom’s happiness.
«It’s an easy relationship, but it’s hard in this case because I have a family. Judo not only deals with my personality, but also with the personalities and dynamic of the five of us. Judo has been very supportive, because she has always had a good friendship with my children. She has represented the figure that is missing in the family, and she is both their confidante and their support.»
In the middle of the pandemic they got engaged, but they wanted to be sure before getting married that they had taken steps to build a strong foundation for their future life.
«For us, marriage is a symbol that our relationship is afloat despite everything we have been through, as well as being a document that formalizes the relationship. It is important because it represents the union we have,» added Mimi.
They also reaffirmed their support for each other’s work. Judo, who owns Lucky Bar, said that Mimi had helped her decorate and often assists her in events. For her part, Mimi has her craft and gift business called Nahomi’s Mimi Craftmiss, for which Judo has always shown her unconditional support.
Finally, they had advice for those who wish to be happy: «If you start thinking about all the criticism, you will never move forward. But when you know what you want, you have no choice but to fight against the world for a time and then you will be at peace with your choice.»
Although the beginning of their romance was difficult because of «what people will say,» now they live their love in freedom and are already engaged.
«We are already in the 21st century. After the pandemic, we learned that there is no time to lose; we have to look for and fight for what makes us happy, no matter what people say. We must seek happiness and emotional balance, anything else is extra,» concluded Judo.
Marriage equality has been legal in Jalisco since 2016. More recently, the state no longer requires couples to file a protective lawsuit, and they can get married in any civil registry of the state.
Translated by Rebecca Zittle
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